How to Manage Email So That It Won’t Ruin Your Life

I want to jar your memory. Remember those times when you had to pick up the phone and call that guy in Accounts Receivable?  What was his name…? Oh, yeah.  That Stupid Douchebag. Remember those times when you slumped in your chair because the chain of command dictated that you extract key information from That Stupid Douchebag? Remember those times when you silently cursed the manager who, through some heretical process of elimination, passed up the candidate with stellar credentials (amongst other things, ahem!) and hired That Stupid Douchebag? Remember…

The “Real” Benefits of Cold Showers

I take cold showers.  And I love it. It’s become the central event of my morning ritual.  Somewhere between 6 and 7 am, I stand underneath a shower head that spurts ice cold water in my hair, on my face, and down my spine (along with the rest of me).  My heart palpitates fiercely as I huff my breaths like a triathlete during the last stretch of the Iron Man.  Three seconds in a cold shower and this is how I feel. And I love it. The Spartans favored ice…

How I Kicked My Amazon Addiction

I confess: I was once an Amazon Prime junkie. I’ve been clean for six months now.  The road to recovery was surprisingly short and tolerable.  No night sweats, endless retching or baseless paranoia.  I required no addiction counseling, prescription pills, or celebrity rehab (You didn’t know that I’m famous?  Okay, I’m not.). How did I wind up in the throes of addiction?  It went something like this… I paid for an Amazon Prime membership shortly after the company announced its availability.  The lure of free two-day shipping on millions of…

How We’re Raising Our Kids to Be Sissies

During a recent stroll through my neighborhood, I noticed a bus advertisement for CNN’s latest series, The Eighties.  The show is a throwback to the decade that inspired Gordon Gekko’s infamous words in Wall Street: “Greed is good.”  Decadent, lascivious, self-indulgent and self-absorbed, the decade of Reagonomics and Rubik’s Cube could be described quite poetically as “psychotically excessive” (I’m thinking of American Psycho right now.). Of course the decade of debauchery was also rife with ideological landmarks and technological innovations, as well as what I term “tectonic shifts” in the…

How I Got Rid of 98% of My Clothes

Last week I acted on impulse and got rid of 98% of my clothes. 1 Seriously. My closet was impenetrable.  A row of cotton and polyester sleeves hung from the rack in lock-step fashion.  These were my coats, jackets, and blazers.  More than a dozen of them.  I also had several button-down shirts, jeans, and dress pants.  Add to that two suits, two belts, and a different tie for each day of the week (even though I rarely ever have to wear a tie). That was my closet.  My dresser…

Call Me Ash

Welcome to Single Step Forward! I’m 41 years old, living in NYC, divorced dad of two, employed by a medical device company (salesperson, not biomedical engineer). I’m single, in half-way decent shape, and quick-witted. Or at least quick to say that I’m quick-witted. That’s a little about me. Here’s a little more: I once played guitar at the legendary CBGB’s; I hiked up the Andes Mountains of Peru with a dislocated elbow (and a vicious bout with E. coli); and I almost drowned during a rafting expedition in Costa Rica….